Why my marriage crashed - Comedienne Princess finally speaks

The commedienne explained that the marriage crashed due to irreconcilable differences which they could not work out. “Yes, my marriage has ended due to irreconcilable differences. We have been having issues since the wedding but we still remained together hoping that we would be able to work it out. But apparently, we couldn’t work it out, hence the reason for our separation. We actually ended it several months ago but we didn’t want to make it public. I am sure God knows best,” A source has shed more light on the divorce. He told P.M.NEWS that Princess confided in a close friend that it was the very week that they got married that she got to know the guy’s intention fully. According to the source, two weeks into their union, they started having problem. Rather than having the crack patched, the trouble festered until both decided to give each other a breather after two months of tolerating each other. “Princess felt she could change some of those findings but her effort proved abortive until she decided to quit the marriage,” the source said. Another source blamed the collapse on Princess who was said to have rushed into the marriage, without bothering to understudy Adeshola, all because she felt age was no longer on her side. “Her desperation to be married was her greatest mistake which makes her fall into the hands of an opportunist who disguise as a lover,” another source told P.M.NEWS. He explained that Adeshola, as a struggling movie producer, had allegedly married Princess with intention that she could help lift his status in the entertainment industry. Others have also laid the blame on the part of Princess whose celebrity status dwarfed that of her husband, and she didn’t pay attention to that attitude problem of her man. A source who claimed to have run into the couple in one of the highbrow restaurants while still together narrated how the husband seemed so uncomfortable as Princess did the ordering of their meals and publicly brought out her bank debit cards (ATM cards) and instructed the husband on which of the cards to be used to pay for the service. “That guy looked deflated as many eyes caught what’s going on between the Princess as a celebrity and her husband at that restaurant,” the source revealed. It was gathered that Adeshola attempted to curtail his wife’s high profile and celebrity lifestyle but he could not and when he got tired, he decided to take a walk. After a quiet registry ceremony at Federal Marriage Registry in Ikoyi, Lagos, Princess and Adeshola got married on 8 May 2013 at a lavish ceremony held at Balmoral Events Centre, Oregun, Lagos. It is not clear yet if Princess will be filing for divorce.

Love mistakes you should avoid in 2014 - By Lara Kudayisi-Emeralds.

It’s a new year and there are lots of expectations in the air. People make plenty resolutions hoping to right the wrong of the previous year. Maybe you were cheated on, duped or dumped last year, this is the time to put those things in the past and take a turn for the better. You are not in the wrong if you prayed for more money, a better job, a better life, good health and a better partner or relationship as he case may be. You need to take practical steps to make these things come to reality and not just sitting down wishing for them while you keep making the same mistakes you made in the past. Like Zig Ziglar said: doing the same things and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. Mistakes to Avoid 1. Playing a Second Fiddle: Many people loved last year with so much passion and vigour, this in itself is a beautiful thing only that the love was not reciprocated in the same vein. They were the second option for someone who wants to eat his/her cake and have it. They came second to other things or people in their partner’s lives. The joy of being in a relationship is when you are an important priority to your lover. If you were a second fiddle last year, now is the time to smart up and refuse to be the other person any longer. 2. Living in the Past: The past is gone; please move on to other things. There are some people who have hurt you in times past and this has kept you on a spot where you just couldn’t allow yourself to love again or open up to something fresh and new. If this was your attitude last year, now is the time to get out of that bondage. You will never make considerable progress this way as the past should be where it belongs; the past! Picture yourself like a stem that was erstwhile cut down and on account of receiving rain and sunlight, hope was birthed and it began to bud again with new and better flowers. 3. Pushing off Commitment: Last year you were younger and therefore wanted to play; this is a new year and you should start it off by thinking long and hard about committing to that special person you love. Consequently, if you have been pushing for commitment and have been rejected or put on hold, then you really need to sit down and examine if you are in the right relationship or you should begin to seek for another. 4. Unrealistic Expectations: Looking for a perfect spouse or waiting for an incredible love story are quite unrealistic expectations. The sooner you accept that human beings are work in progress and not perfect in nature, the better for you. Look for important values like trustworthiness, honesty, selflessness and Love instead of tangible things like money, good looks and so on. Marriage is about two imperfect people growing together to build a better life and doing great things. Be careful about being unrealistic in your expectations. 5. Not knowing what you want: This is one of the greatest dilemmas a human being can be in. You need to know what you want and decide to stay with it. If you found it so hard to make a choice last year because you do not know exactly what you want, then you need to improve on that this New Year. Like I earlier explained, you can’t get a complete package in one human being. If you did, then the person is no longer a human being but an angel. Besides, relationships are about helping each other get better in life. Sit down this New Year and make a realistic list of what you want in a partner and make sure you stick to it. 6. Being Unfaithful: Some people were unfaithful last year because of material gains or just for the fun of it. This year should not be the same if you are expecting to have a good marriage. Marriage is about having one partner for life and sticking to it. If this is a problem for you then you may really not be ready for that life Institution. Faithfulness is a virtue that should be consciously developed with all seriousness as the lack of it could spell disaster in relationships. Having a better love life depends on you this year not just on circumstances you can’t control. If you made some of these mistakes last year and it probably cost you something or not; be careful to wilfully avoid them this year. Remember, you deserve the best; do not settle for less.